Who doesn’t want to be a confident person?
You’re not alone. Suppose you are standing in front of a crowd to give a speech. In an interview, or sitting down to take an exam, we all want to be a confident person. To feel good about ourselves. A lack of confidence can be so painful, and it can influence every area of your life.
A lack of confidence impacts our performance, our emotions, and in the end, it influences our self-talk. Everyone wants to be a confident person and lead a happy, healthy life. Part of achieving that requires a level of self-talk that supports that. So it means our self-talk needs to be self-nurturing. We’re all fighting to be our authentic selves in every area of our lives. That’s something that we all deserve, but it’s something we have to work to accomplish. Confidence stems from hard work and an inner belief in self. To achieve the latter, we must first learn to control our self-talk.
Let’s talk about five ways nurturing our self-talk helps you grow as a person.
Your Thoughts Don’t Own You
It might be challenging to believe, but our thoughts don’t own us – we’re not the thoughts we think. But our ideas can influence our behavior, especially if we’re unaware of them. There is an exciting opportunity here. With self-nurturing, self-talk becomes intentional and mindful. That helps us grow into the best version of ourselves.
It’s up to us to make decisions and react to situations in a way that aligns with our core values. We can only do that based on how we perceive the situation. For example, we have made a mistake. It happens. We can react by cheering ourselves on, or we can respond by putting ourselves down. The self-nurturing self-talk is the former. That’s what is going to help us grow as a person. The latter is going to reduce our confidence and make it difficult for us to take risks and try again.
We will have opportunities daily to correct our thoughts. It’s up to us to respond to mistakes and failures. It’s easier to learn this lesson and move forward by encouraging ourselves.Having the right outlook is one of the most important skills you can cultivate when it comes to overcoming life’s challenges. Click To Tweet
Self-nurturing self-talk is going to boost our performance. Think about how we feel going into a big meeting, an interview, or a public speaking engagement. It’s nerve-wracking, no doubt. But, when we choose self-nurturing self-talk, we are encouraging ourselves. We’re coaching ourselves to succeed.
Self-nurturing self-talk isn’t a case of butterflies, sugar, and rainbows. It’s about instilling self-belief in ourselves. We can hold ourselves to a high standard, but also extend compassion if we don’t meet it or experience a hiccup. It’s easy to allow our feelings or mood to taint our experiences and trigger a bit of negativity. It is going to help us maturely deal with our emotions.
When we build ourselves up with self-nurturing self-talk, we feel great. A natural byproduct of this is that we build others up as well. It makes us a better teammate.
The Bright Side of Life
There are opportunities everywhere in this life. That can be scary, even if those opportunities are exciting. It’s up to us to view those situations and opportunities as a challenge or as a threat. It’s an active choice we can make. One comes from a place of fear, while the other comes from self-motivation.
To be a confident person we can adopt self-nurturing self-talk to help us re-frame opportunities. We can re-frame our failures, and to dictate how we respond to them. This growth is going to take us to the next level.
I am Shirley Noah, an internationally known stress expert and entrepreneur. I would love to connect further with you to help you improve your health and wellbeing. If you are interested in learning more about a worry journal, please take a look at my popular 8 days, FREE E-course, Worry Journal.